Thursday, December 2, 2010

What makes a good parent?

When I got married, I had 4 theories on how to be a good parent... Now I have 2 kids and no theories....

This question often stumps me. WHAT MAKES A GOOD PARENT?

To my surprise, the answer turned out to be very very simple and it came from an unlikely source... Reya

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Tales from Shanghai trip - Things I don't see around me everyday!

I am just back from an India trip, but before I start a series of posts on my expereinces in India, I need to start wrapping up the Shanghai posts series. So today I want to share with you, a few things from Shanghai that I do not see aruond everyday here in Bay area, California

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Thoughtful Tuesdays - How can we raise a kind and compassionate child?

Small deeds done are better than great deeds planned. - Peter Marshall

The reason that I have not been posting the last 3 weeks is that I was in India to attend my little brother's wedding... Well, I came back this Sunday and right at the airport, I had an discussion with Reya that forced me to ask this question to all of you... "How do we raise a child that is kind and compassionate?"
Reya was thirsty and I took her to the water fountain. After drinking her water, she let the water run for a while. I stopped her by telling her that we should not waste drinking water.

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

I am rich! FILTHY RICH!

Oh my God! I am going to be rich... FILTHY RICH!... I can't believe I didn't read this for so long!

It was 1 am in the morning and I was unable to sleep. I had just finished checking my yahoo mail. For a change I decided to check the emails in my spam folder. And within 10 min of reading emails, I realized that my life has changed forever!

In just 10 short minutes, I got several surprises! Unexpected surprises!

Monday, October 4, 2010

Twinkle twinkle little star

If I ask you to name your favorite nursury rhyme that you learned while growing up, there is a good chance that it will be "Twinkle Twinkle little star"

But I recently found out that the rhyme actually has 5 verses not 1...

Here are the complete lyrics of Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, taken from the Oxford Dictionary of Nursery Rhymes (2nd edition, 1997), with the repetition of the first two lines added to fit the melody.

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

My encounter with Murphy!

Murphy's law: Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong...
My translations
  • Whenever you will leave the house without a diaper bag, you will absolutely regret it... 
  • Your child will demand to go bathroom exactly when you are at the farthest point from the bathroom or when there is none around
This comes from personal experience...

A few months ago, I decided that it was time to lighten the diaper bag and go out without the 3 extra changes of clothes... After all, we were just going for an hour long trip to walmart... What could go wrong in 1 hour...


Wednesday, September 15, 2010

Teaching the most important things....

"More important than the curriculum is the question of the methods of teaching and the spirit in which the teaching is given"

I have a younger brother and sister. Back when I was growing up, I was very involved in my brother's education. He is almost 8 years younger to me. My mother always encouraged me to get involved in his education. "You are the eldest... you have to teach your siblings... you need to teach them all the important things they need to learn". And I took that responsibility pretty seriously. When he was in grade school, I even used to go to his PTA meetings, and talk to his teachers.

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Tales from Shanghai trip - Never say never!

"I dare you to eat me. I DARE YOU!"

It was a fish head. Right in front of me at the restaurant dining table in Shanghai on my first night there. It was covered with vegetables, but I could still see the white eye of the fish staring me and challenging me...

I gulped! NO! NEVER!

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Cherry on Top award! Hurrah!

The following happened (for real!) several years back! (I am not telling you how many years back, but I was in middle school). We were getting our reviewed English language assignments back from the teacher. If I remember correctly, we were supposed to write an interpretation of some poem or play. Now you have to understand that I was an excellent student in all other subjects, but when it came to languages, especially writing lengthy interpretations, I wasn't that great. I scored mainly because of grammar.

Flashback starts ..................................................................
Teacher: Shilpa, here is your reviewed assignment.
Moi: Thanks!

Teacher: Shilpa! (with a sigh!) Let me tell you something...
...I wait anxiously! What could it be! Am I in trouble?...

Friday, August 20, 2010

Funny Fridays - Pee Pee WHERE?

On March 3 2010 I logged into facebook to see my friend Preeti's status "TMT (Today my toddler!) taught me the meaning of a word I have been searching my whole life for. He taught me that "freedom" is really two simple words: potty trained"

My dear friends, I am trying to achieve that freedom for Rithik too...

It will take some time and a lot of patience for both of us, but we can... Yes we can! Yes we can! Thanks Obama for that slogan! Very useful for potty-training! I chant it to Rithik almost each time I put him on the toilet seat.

But the training also makes for some very comical (or not!) moments like this one.

Monday, August 16, 2010

Tales from Shanghai trip - East meets India?

Happy Independence day to all my fellow Indians... I am proud of being an Indian - American. I feel loyal to both my homes... India and America. May both my homes prosper in peace!

While there are a lot of things about India that make one proud, sometimes the smallest and strangest things evoke the emotion of pride as you will see in this post.

So where did I leave you at the end of my last post... oh yes! the breakfast buffet of the ParkYard Hotel in Shanghai....  Let me take you inside today.

The buffet was described as "The Chinese and Western breakfast buffet (pay close attention here)" in the hotel literature...

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Tales from Shanghai trip - Waking up in a foreign land!

I opened my eyes... everything around me was dark... but I knew something was different...

My usual mornings find me hunched on my side in the corner of one of the 4 beds in my house after a night of playing musical beds...  But there I was, laying on my back and there was space to move... It could only mean one thing.... I was definitely not in my home!

Monday, August 2, 2010

Musical beds!

People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one.— Leo Burke

I have never been lucky enough to sleep easily... even before I had babies, I always found it hard to sleep... After having babies, I found it even harder...

Earlier, I was never too tired to sleep or had a lot on my mind, I laughed at people that took day-time naps, and always had energy to stay awake the whole night if needed...

Now..., after having the kids, I am always tired by night, jealous of people who have the luxury of a day-time nap and cannot stay awake the whole night... I am ready to sleep ANYTIME now!

But of course, we are a family that plays musical beds at night....

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

A mom-cation!

Every mother is a working mother... Is there any other kind?

So, finally, that night I booked my trip to Shanghai... There was a big discussion (negotiation) before that happened...

I knew the deal needed serious bargaining and I don't know anyone better at bargaining than Rahul... So I applied what I have learned from him and started from a high number...

"Honey, I am thinking of going for 2 weeks"

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

The best use of a million dollars

Ni Hao... Greetings from Shanghai...

I am in Shanghai this week for work and having a lot of new experiences that I will start sharing with you once I come back... But while I enjoy here, let me tell you about an incident from last week.

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

The simple pleasures of life

“A five-year-old child is a being who gets almost as much fun out of a fifty-six dollar set of swings as it does out of finding a small green worm.” -Bill Vaughn

Happy 4th of July everyone!

Had a wonderful relaxing 4th of July long weekend... cought up on sleep, an evening outdoors, shopping, fireworks, and a beach outing with extended family. Had a blast...

This time last year, we were in Canada visiting extended family... oh what a trip it was...

First we missed our flight (we didn't know Rithik needed a

Monday, June 28, 2010

There is a new sheriff in town!

There is a new Sheriff in town...

Getting Reya to do anything against her wishes is an uphill battle... Studies (unless it's reading) is not on her radar unless dropped like an atom bomb... and chores... in my dreams!!! If she doesn't want to do something, she has a million ways to get out of it.

Hubby and I have the unpleasant task of maintaining order and discipline in the household. OK, I can hear him laugh hysterically on this one even though he is not here!... Order in our house... OK I am laughing too now!... and getting Reya to a simple chores can be a mix of bargaining, pleading, bribery, warning and a lot more... What can I say, discipline is hard!

Monday, June 21, 2010

Father's day!

Fatherhood is pretending the present you love most is soap-on-a-rope. ~Bill Cosby

It was father's day yesterday and Rahul got a couple hand made cards from the kids... and as he gushed over them pretending that they were the best gifts, I stood there admiring him... he is a great father... loves his kids to bits, always very funny and playful, but knows when to discipline. !

Monday, June 14, 2010

Putting on the oxygen mask

Everytime Reya or Rithik fall sick, I remember my first trip to Emergency room with Reya...

Before I tell you that story, let me back up 11 years... year 1999, I got married that year and had quite a bit of air travel that year... Everytime I boarded a plane, I heard the flight attendant announce "Please secure your own oxygen mask before assisting your child.". I felt curious as to why? Rahul explained that while it only took a few seconds to help your child, if you don't put on your mask first and passed out while you were helping the child, both of you may die... whereas if you survive, you can help your child...

Hmm... Made perfect sense! I was convinced!

Only the thing that makes perfect sense in theory is very hard to do practically as I found out in 2006

Monday, June 7, 2010

Introducing Reya and Rithik

Motherhood, such a warm word... full of feelings, but some time back, I read a quote... "Mothers of teens know Why Some Animals Eat Their Young"

And then I read another one... "Motherhood is like being pecked to death by chickens."

Do you agree with this? ??