Thursday, April 28, 2011

The two faces of a mother

My mother loves me and my siblings a lot, but that also meant that she really pushed us to do our best. I did quite well in school, and my sister did not. Eventually she admitted defeat and to the relief of my sister she gave up on her studies. To the horror of my brother, she then focused all her energy on his studies. She was referred to as "Hitler mom" by certain extended family members due to her strictness when it came to our studies. Oh I have so many stories about her... but let's focus on just one today.

After my sister and I were both married and our husbands joined the family, we discovered another face of our mother. The one that gushed over her sons-in-law, very loving, caring, agreeing with everything they said... basically a complete opposite of what we saw in the past, which prompted my brother who was still in school to make this observation

Friday, April 22, 2011

Happy Birthday Reya

Seven years ago, on April 21 2004, Reya came into my arms!!!

Reya was born through a last-minute C-section. Since I had epidural, I was awake during the surgery. Rahul was sitting beside me and as soon as Reya was born, the nurse wrapped her in a blanket and took her to check the vitals. All I saw was a blanket and a head full of thick black hair going past me. Rahul immediately rushed to her and at that very moment, I knew that she was going to be the no. 1 girl in Rahul's life forever... After all, I am the no. 1 girl in my Dad's life too.

Reya was born tiny, but she soon became a chubby baby... Her legs were so fat that we had to change one of her nicknames from "chicken legs" to "turkey legs"! We had several other nicknames for her...

From the very beginning, Reya looked like me. I remember coming from my first ultrasound with black and white images and Rahul exclaiming to everyone... "Doesn't she look exactly like Shilpa... Look at the nose"... :-)

I in turn look like my mother. When a pediatrician came to check Reya in the hospital, my mother was sitting there as well and the doctor exclaimed "Oh my! You all look the same!!!" Now whenever my mother says that Reya is beautiful, Rahul teases him that she just wants to praise her own beauty!

Over the past 7 years, all the baby fat is gone. And it's hard to find enough flesh to hold in my hands when I want to pull her cheeks anymore.

But one thing has not changed so far. Reya has been true to her name. She has always had a demeanour of a queen. As a baby, when she threw a ball, she didn't crawl after it... she expected the ball to be brought back to her... But that also means that she has a very big heart. If I am late in buying a gift for a birthday party, she would instantly offer her own things to be given as gift... a trait that I have yet to see in another child.

She is a content person and other than SUGAR (which is absolutely rationed), she doesn't really ask for anything. She also has a strong sense of right and wrong, except when I ask her to clean her room.. and that makes complete sense... what kind of queen cleans her own room!

Although she adores her father, she has also taken some of my traits. She does not play with dolls, just like I never did... I have never bought her a doll and whatever dolls she got as gifts are either thrown away or lying in their boxes, useless... The other day when I asked her why she didn't like dolls, the answer was, "What do dolls do anyways?" Smart answer.

Reya has not yet decided what she is going to be when she grows up. In her school, each year the kids need to tell when they want to be when they grow up. Reya's choices so far have been Queen and Doctor. Her dad has been trying to convince her to be an Investment banker. But given her arguments, litigation skills, interrogation skills and negotiation skills I think she will be a good lawyer or politician... and dare I say President...

I cannot predict future, but I feel she is destined to be a celebrity. She is already practicing to deal with paparazzi... whenever I try to take a picture of her, she covers her face...

Last night to celebrate her birthday, I made a butterfly cake per her instructions... and I pray that my little caterpillar grows up to be a beautiful butterfly and fly to new heights... Amen!


Tuesday, April 19, 2011

What do you do when your kid refuses to take a bath...

It is said that Cleanliness is next to Godliness....

 But everyone who has raised a child knows that when it comes to a toddler, cleanliness is as impossible to achieve as godliness...

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Rithik turns three...

Hey there, Long time!

I have been inactive for some time tending to work and family... but a lot has been happening.!
The kids are growing up... Rithik just turned three and Reya is turning seven this month.

Rithik loved turning three. He had been looking forward to it for quite some time... and even practising!